Have you changed?
Most people don’t. Most people, if you knew them a decade ago and then left and came back, those people would be exactly the same. It’s weird. I’ve done that, actually, a few times over the past few years–re-connected with people I knew in college, and they are, all of them, EXACTLY the same as they were 10, 20 years ago, whatever it was.
I guess that’s natural. I guess that’s normal. I guess that’s just what people do–stay the same forever and ever, Amen.
For some reason, though, I can’t really seem to do that. I’m a living whirligig. Not the kind you put on your lawn, the OTHER meaning of a “whirligig.” Namely, something that’s always changing. That’s why I named the literary magazine I started “The Whirligig.”
But what’s even more interesting is that other people expect YOU to stay exactly the same from age 16 until your heart stops beating. First impressions and all that. And I’ve found that people tend to get pretty angry when they come to find that you’re NOT the same person you were 20 years ago. They’re mad at you for changing, for evolving, for growing.
Whenever this happens, I just shrug, think of about how weird humanity is, and move the hell on.
Have you changed significantly over the course of your life? Or do you prefer to stay the same person you were when you were 18 or 20?