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Have you changed?

Most people don’t. Most people, if you knew them a decade ago and then left and came back, those people would be exactly the same. It’s weird. I’ve done that, actually, a few times over the past few years–re-connected with people I knew in college, and they are, all of them, EXACTLY the same as they were 10, 20 years ago, whatever it was.

I guess that’s natural. I guess that’s normal. I guess that’s just what people do–stay the same forever and ever, Amen.

For some reason, though, I can’t really seem to do that. I’m a living whirligig. Not the kind you put on your lawn, the OTHER meaning of a “whirligig.” Namely, something that’s always changing. That’s why I named the literary magazine I started “The Whirligig.”

But what’s even more interesting is that other people expect YOU to stay exactly the same from age 16 until your heart stops beating. First impressions and all that. And I’ve found that people tend to get pretty angry when they come to find that you’re NOT the same person you were 20 years ago. They’re mad at you for changing, for evolving, for growing.

Whenever this happens, I just shrug, think of about how weird humanity is, and move the hell on.

Have you changed significantly over the course of your life? Or do you prefer to stay the same person you were when you were 18 or 20?

Posted by Frank Marcopolos

Frank Marcopolos lives in Austin, Texas. Hiding from the ever-present Texas sun because of a well-founded fear of skin cancer, he writes short stories and novels that have been praised by some readers, while others have been, like, “Meh.”

He also produces free audiobooks of public domain works on his YouTube channel. You can subscribe to that here: http://youtube.com/brooklynfrank

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  3. Change is inevitable… change is good most of times.
    I changed a lot in last 20 years. Back than I was spoiled annoying little jerk.
    Now, I tend to believe that I became less spoiled, not so annoying little jerk. 🙂

    1.  I guess I’m always surprised by how much people DON’T change…and of course, if you asked THEM, they’d probably say they’ve changed a lot. Just depends on one’s perspective and whether “change” is perceived as positive or negative in the context of any given conversation.

  4. Hi Frank!  I definitely have changed.  Do NOT want to be the fool I was at 18, 20, 25.  Life is about learning, adapting, moving moving moving forward.  Learn from every day and embrace the opportunity to grow and change.   My ex expected me to stay the same.  Surprise – I didn’t.  Hence “ex” . . . . 🙂

    1.  Hi Julie! Guess he/she couldn’t handle your evolution… I think that’s kind of the way it is with most people, though. They want that “first impression” to STICK or else it’s like they’re admitting they’ve made a mistake or something, which is hard for people to do I’ve noticed.

      As for exes, I’ve got as many as the population of Texas… no, just kidding. That’s a bad country music song, I think. And besides, most of mine live on Lawng Islan’.

  5. Your blog post reads so true.  I have lost count of the amount of significant changes I have made to my life over the years, rather like a pheonix.  Whenever I revisit those phases and people in my old life (probably on my 4th phase of life now), they are still there doing the same thing and Facebook is a very good example of this.  I guess change is not for everyone, but for me, ‘comme de swazon’ – like the birds I have to keep evolving. 

    1.  Yeah, facebook is amazing in that it allows you to “glimpse” into people’s lives, and it makes it easy to see when people are exactly the same as they were back in the day.

      I, too, choose evolution! Viva la evolucion! (Or something.)

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